Saturday, November 16, 2013

The Angels sizzle at the 2013 Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show

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Wednesday night Victoria’s Secret hosted their annual runway fashion show at the Lexington Avenue Armory in New York City. The 2013 Victoria’s Secret Angels dressed in sexy lingerie and lounge wear matched to six themes: “British Invasion,” “Birds of Paradise,” “Parisian Nights,” “Shipwrecked,” “Snow Angels” and “PINK Network.”
The models strutted their stuff to music by Taylor Swift and Fall Out Boy. Hit the flip for photos of VS Angels like Cara Delevingne, Jourdan Dunn, Karlie Kloss, Alessandra Ambrosio, Lily Aldridge and Adriana Lima, who hit the catwalk in some of the retailer’s most over-the-top lingerie sets below. – ruthie hawkins/@ruubabie

Chilli confirms whether she had sex with Pebbles’ ex-husband L.A. Reid

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L.A. Reid … it’s your turn.
Perri “Pebbles” Reid and Rozonda “Chilli” Thomas have engaged in a cold war about who slept with whom over the past several weeks. L.A. Reid, the subject of this vicious volleying of invectives between the two, has not uttered a single syllable in his own defense.
Pebbles on the “Wendy Williams” show and HuffPost Live and corroborated the vulgar outburst by daughter, Ashley Reid, who profanely proclaimed that the TLC singer had sex with label boss L.A. Reid when she appeared. 
While she said she has no physical proof of the allege affair between Chilli and her ex-husband, Pebbles nevertheless strongly believes that it did take place and promised to reveal this in an upcoming book.
Chilli has finally broken her silence about her alleged rendezvous with the music mogul with this statement to the media:
“No member of TLC ever slept with or had sexual contact with LA Reid as Perri falsely accused Chilli of on “The Wendy Williams Show.” In fact, Perri had falsely alleged the same thing happened with Tionne.” 
Remarkably, L.A. Reid has remained conspicuously silent while this torrent of activities swirls about him. He could kill this spat between Pebbles and Chilli with one statement.
Again … L.A. Reid, it’s your turn.

When the Passion and Excitement in Your Relationship Is Waning

Michael S. Broder, Ph.D.

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When the Passion and Excitement in Your Relationship Is Waning

Do you feel a lack of excitement in your relationship? Perhaps a certain feeling of passion or excitement that was once there no longer exists, is much less frequent than it was or far less intense? Maybe you used to prioritize your relationship much higher, but it feels like a chore now and that passion and excitement has been replaced by indifference.
Although indifference can be a very difficult thing to turn around in a relationship, it's certainly doable -- as long as this is something that you both want -- either by rekindling what was once there or by creating something even better in your relationship. The first step in reigniting passion is to recognize what caused it to wane in the first place. So step one is to initiate a discussion with your partner. This is often the most difficult step. If your partner is equally unhappy and ready to address the issue, you've taken the most important step together! Next, consider these suggestions for focusing on where you would like the relationship to go:
Make a list of those items that you believe might have led to your indifferent feelings in the first place. These could be ongoing issues you have tried to avoid resolving. Become familiar enough with whatever is bothering your partner (and hopefully visa versa) as well as the ways you try to sweep them under the rug, that you can remind each other about when one of you begins to repeat the pattern. For example, if you tend to leave the room every time you're angry during an uncomfortable discussion, take responsibility for changing that pattern. Walk back to your partner and reopen the discussion--no matter how uncomfortable it feels. There is no getting around working to resolve the issues that are creating the distance. So make a commitment to address each one, either alone or with professional help, if necessary, until you can truly put it behind you.
Focus on the things that you like most about your partner instead of those things that are troubling you or that you dislike the most. Try to identify the ingredients that brought you together in the first place. Explore ways you can re-create those positive feelings you once had. What made your partner so special initially? What did you do when you were dating, when you first began to live together? When and why did those great things start to fade away? Chances are that in sharing some of what is important but rarely discussed, you will find some nice common ground that's been lying dormant.
Try to make it a rule that avoiding painful discussions about something that's bothering one of you is not an option. When new problems and issues come up, talk about them as soon as possible. Don't put them aside with the hope that they will simply go away. As you've probably learned, this rarely happens.
Begin reestablishing intimacy by sharing new feelings and information with your partner. Perhaps you felt your partner didn't care about a certain part of your life, or that you would be rejected if you shared certain thoughts and emotions. Intimacy begins with openness about things that are sometimes difficult to talk about. So to bring that intimacy back once again, take this risk; and get to know each other once again.
Take time to be together without other people around. Many couples get into the habit of relaxing only when sharing activities as a family (that is, with children around) or when they are with other couples. As awkward as it may sometimes seem at first, make being alone together a top priority. Initially, you may have to be very deliberate about this -- literally "making an appointment" to spend an evening together by yourselves or to go away for a weekend. But, eventually, it will hopefully become a top priority.
Discuss what your goals together are -- both long- and short-term. There is a good chance that both of you have goals that have changed since the last time you discussed them (or perhaps you never discussed them). You may find out some very valuable information about yourselves, both individually and as a couple. And while you're at it, make sure to share your hopes, dreams, and wishes.
Spend a week acting as if you were in love again. Some couples do this by going away together or finding other ways to recreate their courtship.
These things may not be easy at first, but they will kick-start the healing process and could be fun as well. In fact, you may even be able to create a degree of comfort that you never had before, if a change for the better is something that you both desire. You can also learn a number of tools in my book; Can Your Relationship Be Saved? How to Know Whether to Stay or Go to continue reigniting the spark your relationship once had.

Stop Hating: Five Reasons It Pays to Get Happy About Other People's Success


  • A person who feels anger and/or jealousy for someone who has succeeded in something they have worked hard for.
  • A being that speaks badly, and/or takes negative actions in attempt to create problems for a successful person.

Clearly, being a "hater" is not a good thing. And how we handle other people's success, especially when things may not be going so well for us, is an indicator of our maturity and belief in ourselves.
So what do you do when you see someone thriving with the opportunities, recognition, clients and wins that you want for your life or business? You learn to celebrate other people's success.
If you master generating genuine happiness for other people, not only will you find a cure for the envy, which can sabotage your success, but there are additional benefits as well. Here's what you open the door to as you welcome and express joy for others:
  • Freedom from frustration and worry. When you see another person's win as a loss for you, you pave the way for discouragement and resentment to set in. Instead allow other people's success to ignite hope for the success coming in your time of harvest.
  • More opportunities to be happy! Rejoicing with others creates an opportunity to multiply the good times you get to celebrate. By seizing every chance to sincerely congratulate other's on their success, you are creating an atmosphere for others to be willing to celebrate your successes.
  • Improved relationships with others. Healthy relationships involve sharing both ups and downs. People are more likely to respond positively to you if they sense that you're truly happy for them.
  • Good karma. You reap what you sow. Giving unselfishly creates a win for everybody.

I know, it all sounds good, but how do you actually pull it off -- and do it sincerely? Here are seven ideas:
  1. Proactively look for opportunities to shine a spotlight on someone else. Keep in touch with what's going on in the lives of the people around you. Others may be bashful about mentioning their own victories but still appreciate having their efforts recognized.
  2. Create a daily gratitude list. It's difficult to be happy for other people when you are dissatisfied with your life. Remind yourself of all the wonderful things you have to be grateful for. Go one step better and share one thing a day with someone.
  3. Be aware of your jealousy. Weigh the consequences of jealousy and envy. Be honest with yourself when you notice your thoughts and feelings heading down a negative path.
  4. "Fake it till you make it." Or as Karen Salmansohn says -- "Faith it till you make it." It's okay to use some artificial gestures to get started. Even if you're not purely happy that your ex-husband got an award, you can say something gracious.
  5. Start with the people you love. Charity starts at home and so should the celebration. It might be difficult to get instantly excited about the lives of strangers. However, you can start by focusing on the people closest to you. For example, cheer with enthusiasm when your cousin wins an award, your brother gets a promotion, or a friend successfully closes a deal.
  6. Work your way up to dealing with the hard stuff. For example, celebrating with someone that got something you wanted for yourself or being happy for someone you believe is undeserving.
  7. With practice, you'll be able to tackle the more sensitive issues. When you find the techniques that work with the people you love, you can use those same strategies with more challenging opportunities.
So the next time someone you know gets great news, don't hate -- celebrate with them. Remember, you reap what you sow: You can look forward to welcoming more joy into your own life as you celebrate other people's success.
 

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Why RuPaul Changes Clothes At Least 3 Times A Day

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When it comes to fashion, the world's most famous drag queen knows no bounds. In this online exclusive from "Oprah: Where Are They Now?" RuPaul shares his anything-goes style philosophy.
"I believe in experiment," RuPaul says. "Use this body -- paint it, decorate it, snatch it, tuck it, pluck it -- do whatever you want with it, just as long as you don't hurt anybody else."
RuPaul says he doesn't have many beauty pet peeves. Hair? The bigger, the better. Makeup? "I love seeing people with too much make-up on, I do," he says. "I love it, I love it."
As far as fashion dos and don'ts, RuPaul says style is about going out and finding yourself. "You play with all the toys," he says. "I always say it's important to use all the colors in the crayon box."
In fact, he plays with his wardrobe every day. "I like to change clothes at least three times a day," he shares. "I love clothes."
The reason is simple, he explains. "This is the thing: I spend a lot of money on clothes. I love shopping, I love clothes, and so the only way in this one lifetime I'll be able to use these clothes is I have to wear them a lot, and I have to change clothes three or four times a day."
The only thing you won't see RuPaul in is sweats. "Most people are way too casual -- I'm not crazy about casual clothes. There's a way to do it, but listen, I'm not going to fight the world. I know that everybody loves it, so go ahead and do it."
Also in the video, RuPaul reveals his secret to strutting in sky-high heels. "The key to wearing stiletto heels is to put your weight on the ball of your foot, not on the heel," he says. "Most people think you rest on the heel."
Your success with stilettos also depends on coordination and confidence. "The first time I put on heels, I was like 'Oh yeah, I got it,'" RuPaul says. "I've always had good hand-eye coordination. But you find a lot of people are not comfortable in their bodies and those people, there's just no hope for them, not in terms of stilettos."
"Oprah: Where Are They Now?" airs Sundays at 10 p.m. on OWN.

Friday, November 15, 2013

Money Minute: McDonald's Fast Menu Changes Are Slowing It Down


McDonald's is moving too fast and too slow at the same time. That and more of the top money stories you need to know today.

McDonald's (MCD) says it has rolled out new menu items too quickly this year, which has created challenges in its kitchens and slowed service.
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A trade publication that tracks the time it takes to get your drive-through order says McDonald's has slowed to slowest pace in at least 15 years. In response, the company says it will invest more to improve the assembly process.

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Global Red Cross Response Effort Underway in Wake of Typhoon

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Last Friday, Super Typhoon Haiyan tore through the Pacific islands of the Philippines, leaving behind a scene of destruction and despair. The global Red Cross network is responding to emergency needs in the Philippines with food, water, and relief supplies, and the American Red Cross is lending people, expertise and equipment to this massive effort.
While Red Cross relief efforts are well underway, blocked roads, destroyed infrastructure and downed communication lines are making the response particularly challenging.
The Philippines, a nation of more than 7,000 islands, faces enormous devastation in the aftermath of Typhoon Haiyan that produced record strength winds along with high storm surges. Approximately 10 million people across 40 provinces have been affected with as many as 600,000 people displaced and the death toll continuing to rise.
PHILIPPINE RED CROSS ON THE GROUND The Philippine Red Cross is leading this response effort and their volunteers have been caring for people even before Typhoon Haiyan made landfall. Prior to the arrival of Typhoon Haiyan, the Philippine Red Cross worked closely with local disaster authorities to support preemptive evacuations, helping move more than 125,000 families to safer shelters. The Philippine Red Cross also disseminated early warning messages and safety tips in areas along the path of the typhoon.
Days later, Philippine Red Cross volunteer rescue and relief teams continue to provide assistance in the hardest hit communities, including assisting in search and rescue efforts. The Philippine Red Cross has extensive experience in search and rescue and large-scale relief and recovery programs. The Philippine Red Cross is the largest humanitarian organization in the country, with 1,000 staff members and an estimated 500,000 active volunteers engaged in response to this emergency.
The Philippine Red Cross has begun distributions of relief supplies and volunteers are packing more supplies to send to all the affected areas. However, delivery of supplies in the worst affected city of Tacloban has been significantly constrained by damage to local infrastructure. Typhoon Haiyan hit the city of about 220,000 people the hardest with a tsunami-like storm surge pushing a wall of water nearly 10 feet high inland.
Specialized emergency response teams from Red Cross societies across the globe are moving into the Philippines to assist the Philippine Red Cross. These include teams with expertise in logistics, disaster assessment, shelter, health, water and sanitation.
AMERICAN RED CROSS RESPONSE EFFORTS The American Red Cross is among those societies helping support the response efforts of the Philippine Red Cross. Four people from the American Red Cross have arrived in the Philippines. These include two people who specialize in telecommunication and who are travelling with satellite equipment, and two others who specialize in disaster assessment.
When responding overseas, the American Red Cross response is different than a typical disaster response in the United States, working closely with the affected Red Cross society who serves as the lead to provide the level of staff support and assistance requested.
The American Red Cross is also helping to reconnect families separated by this typhoon and has activated its family tracing services. If people are looking for a missing family member in the Philippines, please remember that many phone lines are down. If people are unable to reach loved ones, contact your local chapter of the American Red Cross to initiate a family tracing care.
The American Red Cross remains in close contact with the Philippine Red Cross, and more help and assistance will be provided in the days ahead.
People who want to donate to the American Red Cross to support the response for this typhoon can go to redcross.org or call 1-800-REDCROSS.

About the American Red Cross:
The American Red Cross shelters, feeds and provides emotional support to victims of disasters; supplies about 40 percent of the nation's blood; teaches skills that save lives; provides international humanitarian aid; and supports military members and their families. The Red Cross is a not-for-profit organization that depends on volunteers and the generosity of the American public to perform its mission. For more information, please visit redcross.org or visit us on Twitter at @RedCross.