What does it take to get to the top -- without losing your
center? Our “Making It Work” series profiles successful, dynamic women
who are standouts in their fields, peeling back the "hows" of their work
and their life, taking away lessons we can all apply to our own.
At 29,
Molly McAleer, co-founder of the website
HelloGiggles and executive story editor on the CBS sitcom "
2 Broke Girls,"
has paid more than a few dues in the entertainment industry. Born in
Lexington, Mass., McAleer moved to Los Angeles in 2006 fresh out of
Boston College. She went through "the Gawker machine," as she put it,
blogging in 2007 and 2008 at
Defamer,
Gawker Media's celebrity gossip site. For nine months, she literally
moonlighted as an assistant night editor at the Style Network. ("My
hours were 4pm to 7am. When you go to sleep when the birds are chirping,
that really f**ks with your mind.") She signed a contract with MTV to
star in her own variety show to be called "The Molls Half Hour Party
Hour"... only to see the project fall through.
Then her luck began to change. Her friend, producer
Sophia Rossi, had the idea of starting a website "like
'Funny or Die'
for women." Soon after, Zoey Deschanel joined the project. Realizing
they didn't actually have the staff or resources to create a video site,
they focused on writing instead. It was while she was building
HelloGiggles that McAleer began writing the TV pilot sample that landed
her a gig on "2 Broke Girls," which begins its third season this fall.
Now that she can reliably pay her rent, McAleer, who lives in West
Hollywood with her 6-year-old chihuahua, Wagandstuff, and describes
herself as "deeply single," is figuring out exactly what success means,
professionally and personally.
Did you become a writer by accident or design?
Writing online was completely an accident. My grandfather [John McAleer]
was a quote unquote famous writer, so I was around writing my whole
life. It was revered in my family, probably to the point that I felt
like I couldn't do it. I didn't even realize that that was my passion
for a long time. I'd been setting up little blogs on Angelfire and
Homestead since I was 11 -- [but] that was always just my thing that I
did. I have a crazy interest in the Internet, but more than that I have a
crazy interest in making people aware of all of my thoughts.
I was told when I started at Defamer that I needed to have a blogging
presence individually, so I started keeping a personal blog. When it
was linked under my name on the masthead, one of my bosses approached me
and was like, "Are you sure this is the blog that you want people to
see? You're writing about your ex-boyfriends. Are you sure you want to
be this personal?" And I looked at him and said, "What else am I
supposed to write about?"
The TV job was [by] design. I just wasn't making enough money. I was
27, and there was never going to be a freelance blogging gig that was
going to make it happen for me.
How does one go about scoring a job on a highly rated sitcom?
A big part of my life [in my mid-20s] was socializing, making sure
that I knew who people were and people knew who I was. I got that sample
into the hands of
Whitney Cummings [one of the show's executive producers] because I knew her socially through a bunch of different people, [and] she had done my
podcast.
Whitney knew exactly how broke I was. I was moving at one point and
selling my desk. Whitney came and bought it for like $200 and saw the
bachelor apartment [where] I was living in Koreatown. I didn't have a
bed because I had just had bed bugs. So she knew firsthand. I think that
really kind of got me the interview.
Then I was able to go and meet with [executive producer] Michael
[Patrick King] and Whitney and explain that I was starting my own
business [HelloGiggles] with these business partners and that I had been
writing for all these years, sacrificing a lot of things with the hope
that it would all work out someday. I think that Michael was drawn to
that. That's kind of how everything happened.
What would you do if you weren't doing this?
I've always been fascinated by radio and wanted to own my own radio
network, like Sirius or something. I would love to be able to program an
entire radio network. I've also just really wanted to have my voice on
the air.
Who is your role model?
For me it's always a toss-up between David Sedaris and Dolly Parton.
That's always been the cross-section of human that I'm interested in. I
really like voices that are true to themselves. For different reasons,
those people represent that to me.
Do you have a mentor?
I've had a lot of people who were very kind to me, but no one's ever
taught me how to do anything. I had to figure all that stuff out on my
own. I always find that shocking when someone young comes to me and asks
me to help because I don't think there's anything that can be helped.
You just have to work it out.
What's the biggest lesson you've learned from your 20s?
Now that I look back on it, everything happened exactly the way it was
supposed to. Around [age 25] I was offered a variety show on MTV. I
thought that I had finally figured it out, that everything was clicking.
I was being acknowledged the way I was supposed to be acknowledged.
Then it completely fell apart. At the time I thought, "That really
sucks. I don't get to perform. I don't get to be the star of my own
television show." Thank god that didn't happen! I am so thankful that I
had to stick around and pay some more dues for a couple of years before
something really big worked out for me.
I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be right now. It all happened. I'm
just so grateful for the job at "2 Broke Girls," every single day. If it
had come any earlier, I don't know if I would have known to be so
grateful for it. If it had come any later, I don't know if I would have
been in L.A. anymore.
How do you define success?
I know that for a lot of people the answer would be "having my name in a
certain publication" or "having my book be a New York Times
bestseller." My idea of success is that I can pay my rent and take care
of my health. That means a lot to me.
What advice would you give your 25-year-old self?
Stay home and read more, and you should work on breathing. I didn't
breathe really at all until I was like 27 -- just enough to stay alive. I
was in a constant frenzy. It makes sense that I was panicked -- I was
in Los Angeles alone building something, [and] I didn't know what, and I
didn't know where it would go. But I think I also caused myself a lot
of unnecessary pain just because I wasn't really being very conscious or
aware of anything.
What's your stress level now?
Pretty high, probably like an 8? Most of it's self-inflicted.
I see an acupuncturist, a therapist and an energy healer every week. I
work very hard at dealing with it because I don't find anxiety to be
this attractive quality it's made out to be all the time by my peers. I
feel like I'm always hearing people talk about how anxious they are -- I
think a lot of people equate [it] with adulthood or busyness or
success. It's a gigantic waste of time, it shaves years off your life,
and it conditions you to value all of the wrong things.
How do you recharge?
I go through long creative periods where I kind of lose myself and I
need to check back in, [so then I have] a hibernation period. I just sit
inside and I watch Lifetime movies and read and listen to public radio
and get back to the things that make me feel human.
I try to consciously take these rebuilding periods so that I don't
completely lose myself in the process of trying to make my dreams come
true.
Do you keep your phone next to your bed?
I have a disgusting relationship with my phone. I don't keep it next to
my bed, I keep it next to my face, [and] I don't just sleep with a cell
phone, I sleep with two laptops and an ipad. So basically there's no
room for a man in my life because my bed is full of electronics. It's
not healthy. I don't recommend it. Michael Jackson's mom went to
someplace in Arizona where they took her cell phone [away], and I've
thought about doing that.
Do you get enough sleep?
Yeah, actually. I bank sleep. That is my thing. I can do 10 to 11 hours a night, easy.
Where do you want to be in five years?
I will be happy to have a couple more things that I'm proud of behind me
creatively. It would be great if I met a great guy, but I don't know if
that's a goal. I also would like to be able to have another dog, [and] I
would like to continue to provide myself with the kind of lifestyle
that I'm comfortable with, a semi-nice one.
It's not that I don't have expectations or dreams, it's just ... if I
won an Emmy or something, it would be great, but I don't know if that
would make me happier or more successful. Really all I can hope for is
to have a little more continual comfort in knowing that I'm doing
everything I can.
Is there a glass ceiling? Have you hit it?
I don't think about life like that. I definitely haven't hit it. I'm an executive story editor on "2 Broke Girls."
My experience has not been made tougher by the fact that I'm a woman
-- in fact I think that there's something fortunate about [it],
especially at this time. The year that I got my job on the show, there
were three shows with the world "girl" in the title that were picked up.
As much as we see examples of people hating women or not thinking of
women as their equals, I think my life has been very charmed by the fact
that I get to wear dresses and I get to be the girl. I'm so happy I'm a
woman. I really am.
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