Boise State gets OK to help homeless player

 
BOISE, Idaho (AP) -- The NCAA says Boise State can immediately assist a homeless football recruit who signed to play with the team in February.

Antoine Turner said in an interview with KTVB-TV in Boise that he's recently been living in a motel, along with a car belonging to his girlfriend, as he finishes up classes at Fullerton College in California.

Boise State received clearance Wednesday from the NCAA to reach out to Turner and offer support.


After graduating from Fullerton, the defensive tackle is scheduled to take summer school classes at Boise State, where he will live in the dorm and have a meal plan.

Turner grew up in New Orleans and told the station his mom died of cancer when he was young, putting a strain on the relationship with his father. He moved around throughout his childhood.

He said football helped him and that he "brought a suitcase and a dream" with him to California. But he didn't have any money or help from his family back home.

He lived wherever he could find.

"I thought I was going to get away from my problems, but they just had started," Turner told the station. "About a year after I came out here, I actually couldn't take it no more. At one time I had the feeling of suicide. I couldn't fight no more."

An uncle gave him a place to stay in government subsidized housing, until an issue an issue with regulations recently arose. He's been sleeping in motels and anywhere else ever since.

Officials for Boise State said they didn't realize how bad things had gotten for Turner until the television report. They were in contact with him, but the football coaches had no idea he was homeless.

Since the story broke, Boise State fans have been quick to offer food and shelter for Turner, but that could jeopardize his playing status.

The school talked to the NCAA about it and the governing body responded on its Twitter account by announcing: "After Boise State's request last night, the school may provide immediate assistance to football student-athlete Antoine Turner."

Turner had 34 tackles and six sacks as a redshirt sophomore last season. He also had an interception.

Sophia Amoruso, NastyGal Founder, Shares Her Journey From Dumpster-Diving Teen To CEO

 
What does it take to get to the top -- without losing your center? Our “Making It Work” series profiles successful, dynamic women who are standouts in their fields, peeling back the "hows" of their work and their life, taking away lessons we can all apply to our own.
The first thing Sophia Amoruso sold on the Internet was a stolen book. Eight years later, she's the CEO of NastyGal, an online clothing retailer with annual sales over $100 million.
The 30-year-old's fashion empire started as a simple eBay store. When Amoruso was 22, she had a job checking student IDs at a Bay Area art school. During downtime hours she began selling vintage clothing on eBay, using a name borrowed from a Betty Davis album. In 2008, she decided to launch NastyGal as a standalone site. The retailer's sales grew 10,160 percent between 2008 and 2011, landing the company a spot on the Inc. 5000 list, venture capital investors, and an even bigger cult following.
Amoruso now manages over 300 employees in a 50,000-square-foot L.A. office. She's spoken at SXSW, been profiled in Forbes Magazine and made Inc.'s 2013 "30 Under 30" list. The self-described community college dropout, whose first paying job was as a Subway Sandwich Arist, never expected the success she's found.
"Half the people in this office wouldn't have taken me seriously seven years ago," she told Fast Company in March 2014. "To my surprise and everyone else's, I've come out the other side more self-aware, self-critical, and able to appreciate what I have."
Amoruso's most recent venture is her book, #GIRLBOSS. Part memoir, part business guide, the book follows her unlikely path to success -- from a dumpster-diving teenager to a CEO.
Amoruso took a break from promoting her book for a phone call with The Huffington Post, discussing business books, Big Sur and being your own idol:
Why do you do the work that you do?
I realized when I started NastyGal, that selling online means you can calibrate so fast what works and what doesn’t work. I immediately had a customer that I was loyal to; I had someone who was interested in what I was doing, who was either buying or not buying what I had to sell. And I realized that I really enjoyed putting things together for her and ultimately dressing her. So it’s always been a response to a demand. And as soon as anyone cared about what I was doing, it was clear that I wanted to do the best job I possibly could. And it was never about being big. We have a big business today as a result of doing a good job at what I started almost eight years ago on eBay.
And what NastyGal has ultimately become is more than just clothing. We give girls a place to be themselves. And #GIRLBOSS, as a book, gives girls permission to to be who they want to be, and to try new things, and to have an opinion, and to have an unpopular opinion and to do things differently. I think it’s important that everyone understands that there’s no real prescription to having an awesome life.
What would you be doing if you didn’t do this?
I really wanted to be a photographer. I wanted to go to art school, but I ended up with an education beyond my wildest dreams. I think I would probably try to be a photographer again [if I wasn't running NastyGal]. But at this point, I really don’t see a life for myself outside of NastyGal, for a very, very long time -- and maybe never.
Do you have a mentor?
I think I’ve had various mentors. Theres not been a single person that I could attribute NastyGal’s success to, because it was as much learning from the people around me as it was disagreeing with them. The book talks about being your own idol, and it’s probably hard for a lot of people to grasp considering we live in this world where we worship celebrities. But I think if we compete with ourselves, we do our best.
Ultimately, my mentors are my team. They are my president, my CTO, my creative director, our head of marketing and our head of design. They all have more experience than I do at everything that they’re doing, and they mentor me every day. I’d say the world is my mentor -- but for the most part it’s been the awesome team that I’ve been so lucky to surround myself with.
Do you mentor other young women, or people interested in what you do?
I haven’t formally. I’ve had lunches with various people who are starting businesses or trying to start businesses, who want advice or I’ll try to introduce them to someone who might have helped me along the way. My schedule is crazy, so it’s really hard for me to do, and my first loyalty is to NastyGal. Ultimately I don’t have the time to give everyone that already works for me the time that I would like to. But we are launching the #GIRLBOSS foundation which, later on, will have a mentorship component to it. It’s a nonprofit that will support creative entrepreneurs -- women -- in furthering their interests and their dreams.
What advice would you give yourself at the start of your career, before NastyGal became so huge?
That businesses can never rely on one person. It’s really the team that makes the business successful. When my first COO left, I thought the sky was falling. He was only with the company for 9 months, but I learned so much from him in that short amount of time that it was like… what am I going to do with myself? A great mantra to have, whether you’re breaking up with your boyfriend or you lose your job, or something changes that you didn’t anticipate -- which is a fact of life, and very much a fact of running a business -- is: "I was OK before this, I will be OK after this."
Is there anything that you would worry about less, or pay more attention to at the start of your career?
I think I paid attention to everything that I needed to and could, at the start. I can be pretty reactive, and I’ve learned over time to be less reactive, to stop and think before I make decisions. When a company becomes a lot larger, the big decisions that you’re making sometimes have a lot of money at stake and a lot of people’s careers at stake. So it’s a totally different process now, and there’s been a learning curve to that for me. So I would say, “calm down,” maybe. Just a little bit. I’m still working on that.
How would you define success?
You know, success is a scary concept, because it assumes something kind of final. In the grand scheme of life, I don’t think there is some ultimate success. As a business we’ve learned not to go into things and do them for the sake of doing them, but to say "What do we want? What results do we actually want from this?" And to look back and say, "Did we do what we planned to do?" That’s one version of success.
I think we’re all capable of creating successes in our life every day, and I think that’s a much healthier approach to your life and your career. If something doesn’t work out and you learn from it, you’ve still been successful.
We're all so tied to technology these days. What’s your relationship like with your cellphone?
It’s pretty unhealthy. I’m in my inbox a lot. If I’m watching a movie at home, sometimes my boyfriend will take my phone away from me. On vacations I’ll have him hide it from me. It’s just way too easy to stay on top of everything all the time, which feels like you’re being productive, but sometimes you’re not productive at all. And it’s very hard to get away from technology and just focus.
How do you relax?
I just got a Nintendo Wii, and that’s kind of fun. It’s just totally mindless. I think mindless stuff is pretty relaxing. When I take a vacation, I try to go places where I don’t have a lot of choices. I love Big Sur. You wake up in the morning, and there’s one road. And there’s probably five places to eat. Because I make so many choices in the day to day of the business, actually being places where I have what I need, but removed from the overwhelming feeling of too many choices, is usually really good for me.
What made you decide to write #GIRLBOSS?
I’ve read business books, and business magazines, and 10 years ago if you had told me “Hey, you should read this business book,” I would have been like, “that’s boring.” But I actually find it pretty fascinating. There are so many parts of business that you can apply to real life. And I wanted to share that learning with girls, so I think #GIRLBOSS is a little bit of a gateway drug to the world of business books. It’s also a memoir and a life bible. The world tells you: go to high school, get good grades. Go to college, get good grades. Start your first job and then you’ll get a better job. And that works for many, many people -- but none of it worked for me. I tried, but I couldn’t find the reward in it, and I think there’s a lot of people who have varying degrees of that frustration, asking “where do I fit in?” and “what do I want to do with my life?”
We think we want to do something, try it, don’t like it, feel like a failure because we spent time on it, and shift gears -- and I think no one really talks about that, and the fact that that’s OK. Those cumulative experiences can turn into something really awesome. If you’re patient with yourself and you learn from your mistakes, you can achieve a lot. And I think my story is an example of that. And I hope #GIRLBOSS gives women, girls and guys and anyone who reads it permission to live their lives the way they want to, to be honest with themselves and everyone around them, and ultimately try to build a better life for themselves.
What's the one thing women should do in 2014?
I think it’s important that women live the life they want to live, and don’t live the life that the world has told them to live -- unless they want to. That’s their life, that’s their choice, and that’s what they want.
This interview has been edited and condensed.
#GIRLBOSS is available May 6th.

Frequent Arguments Might Be the Death of You

Arguing and worrying over family problems may lead to an increased risk of dying in middle age, Danish researchers report.
Conflicts with family, friends and neighbors posed the greatest risk. Those most at risk are men and people out of work, the researchers noted.
"Stressful social relations in private life are associated with a two- to three-times increased risk of dying," said lead researcher Dr. Rikke Lund, an associate professor in the department of public health at the University of Copenhagen.
"Worries and demands from partners and children, and conflicts in general, seem the most important risk factors," she said.
The findings still held when chronic disease, depressive symptoms, age, sex, marital status, support from social relations, and social and economic position were taken into account, Lund said.
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"We also find that men and participants outside the labor force are especially vulnerable to the exposure to stress from social relations," she said.
Simon Rego, director of psychology training at Montefiore Medical Center at Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York City, said, "While we've long known the protective role that healthy social relations play, the results of this study suggest that social relations are actually more like a double-edged sword, as they can also be destructive when unhealthy."
The report was published online May 8 in the Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health.
For the study, Lund and colleagues collected data on nearly 10,000 men and women, aged 36 to 52, who took part in the Danish Longitudinal Study on Work, Unemployment and Health.
Participants were asked about their everyday social relationships, particularly about who, among partners, children, other relatives, friends and neighbors, made excess demands, prompted worries or were a source of conflict, and how often these problems arose. They also examined whether having a job made a difference.
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Using data from the Danish Cause of Death Registry, researchers tracked participants from 2000 to the end of 2011. Over that time, 196 women (4 percent) and 226 men (6 percent) died. Nearly half the deaths were from cancer. Heart disease and stroke, liver disease, accidents and suicide accounted for the rest.
About one in 10 said that their children were a frequent source of excess demands and worries. Nine percent said that their spouse was often a source of demands or concern. Six percent cited problems among their relatives and 2 percent had issues with friends.
Some 6 percent of participants said they "always or often" had conflicts with their spouse or children, 2 percent had such conflicts with other relatives, and 1 percent with friends or neighbors.
Taking all of this into account, Lund's team calculated that these stresses were linked to a 50 percent to 100 percent increased risk of death from any cause. Among all these stresses, arguing was the most harmful, the researchers found.
Frequent arguments with partners, relatives, friends or neighbors were associated with a doubling to tripling in the risk of death from any cause, compared with those who said these incidents were rare, the authors noted.
Rego said it's important to note the limitations of an observational study, such as this one. "As with all studies that employ observational designs, caution should be used when interpreting the results, as the design does not provide conclusive information about any cause-and-effect relationships," he said.
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Still, the researchers suspect that greater stress from conflicts and concerns might be the reason behind the increased risk. They noted that when stressors were increased -- for example, conflict at home coupled with unemployment -- the risk of premature death also rose.
Lund also cited higher levels of stress hormones and increased blood pressure as possible reasons for the connection.
Rego said the interactions between stressful social situations and the body's stress response as well as other factors -- such as genetics, environment, socioeconomic factors and psychological responses -- likely all play a role in the association between conflicts and a higher risk of death.
Lund suggested that learning to deal with conflict and stress might be helpful. "Skills in handling worries and demands from close social relations as well as conflict management within couples and families, and also in local communities, may be considered important strategies for reducing premature deaths," Lund said.
Rego agreed. "Given these findings, it seems reasonable to conclude that designing and implementing psychological interventions, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, which focus on teaching specific skills like how to manage worries and demands from close social relations, as well as conflict management within couples, families, and even in local communities, all may be important strategies for reducing premature deaths," he said.

Last Updated: 5/9/2014
By Steven Reinberg, HealthDay News

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